I woke up speaking affirmations to myself, which is a habit I’ve been trying to force for the last week or so. It’s crazy, because I drive affirmations into my children on the daily and others around me, but I rarely put that same nourishment into myself. Until now that is. Today’s affirmation is “I am patient and I am kind.”
When there is something we want or desire, we often put a rush on it. It could be a car. It could be entering motherhood or marriage. It could be losing weight. It could be healing. Sometimes we even find ourselves rushing the night so we can get to the next day. Here is what I have learned about rushing. You see, life it full of processes and behind EVERYTHING there is a process. I believe this system is in place for our benefit and when we are too hasty and we rush, we find ourselves missing steps or missing out on a certain meaningful lessons or gifts we would have gained had we just had a little patience. Some times that very gift is time. As parents we sometimes rush our babies to the next stage in life. When my daughter was a newborn, I couldn’t wait for her to get to a stage where she was able to interact more with me. You know, laugh, crawl, talk, etc. I rushed the milestones when instead I probably should have held on to those very fast moving moments, because now I am looking into the eyes of a maturing 12 year old that I want to hold on to. Time has seemingly sped up. We rush to get our days started without taking a moment to mentally prepare ourselves (as best as possible) for whatever may lie ahead.
The smallest dose of kindness goes a long way. It is my personal belief that kindness saves lives. We will save that for a later conversation. In the spirit of being 100% honest with myself (and my readers) I am not always kind. I think that I have more kindness in me than the opposite, but that only tells me that I still have a lot of work to do within myself. Knowing is half the battle? Lately, I catch myself during these unkind moments and I literally have to check myself. It is better that I check me than someone being left with a not so nice impression of me. Kindness doesn’t just rest on how you treat others. You have to put some of that into yourself as well. I’m far more kinder to others than I am to myself and that is something that I am working on. I need to be as kind (if not kinder) to myself as I am to others. The same way I overextend myself for others, I have to be willing to do this for myself.
So I will leave you with this. Be patient and understand that process is preparation and who likes to be unprepared? Patience also gives us the space to take in and appreciate a “now” when “later” may come at the speed of light. For some, that later may never come. Kindness is free and doesn’t take away. It only adds to. Be kind to everyone, but most definitely yourself.
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